"Communication and Trust" By Rachel Phillips

The two biggest components to making a relationship work are communication and trust. They build on top of one another because with communication trust is gained and with trust a person is less likely to throw accusations of infidelity in their partners face. This isn't always the case, but there is less of a chance of it happening. Love is complicated and there are many barriers and hurdles one most overcome with their partner in order for the relationship to flourish.

Sure it’s easy to say communication and trust can make a lasting and solid relationship, but the first step is getting there. When a person first meets someone the benefit of the doubt is first established depending on the type of person that’s being dealt with. Someone who has been lied to and betrayed in their past trust doesn’t come easy and to that person all the communication in the world won’t help them forget their past hurts.

We’ve all heard the line “I won’t hurt you” or “I’m not like those other people in your past” at one point or another on our walk on the path to find love. Some people might have genuinely had feelings behind those words, but for others they were simply words used as weapons to conquer and destroy. The “conquer and destroy” types are the ones with ill intentions that are to gain their own pleasures.

Sadly, too many people have run into the conquer and destroy type and others have run into the one’s that meant those words, but didn’t know how to act properly on the “I won’t hurt you” or became just like the other people of the past. Either way a person’s heart is broken. They are different from the “conquer and destroy” type because they meant their words made mistakes. Everyone is entitled to mistakes because no one is perfect.

Communication and trust are essential parts to a healthy relationship. A person should be able to express to their special someone what makes them happy or sad or their strengths and weaknesses. There should be an order of give and take not one half tells everything and the other never expresses themselves. A relationship won’t work that way. It has be to an equal sharing on behalf of both persons. I don’t claim to know everything, but this is only my little experience on my path to find love.